Sunday, July 12, 2015

‘Which man should I follow?’

‘Which man should I follow?’

Dear Love Doctor, I am a 35-year-old lady. Me and my boyfriend of six years were having major problems for about three of those years. Then I ended up meeting a man from another state and we have been talking for about six months now. I believe that the other man and I are soul mates. But recently, my boyfriend changed back to being the man I met and fell in love with. So now I don’t know what to do. I think I need to meet my potential soul mate first in order to make a decision on which man or which relationship to follow. So should I go meet the other man? From Ruth.


Love Doctor’s Advice:
Dear Ruth, By all means, go meet him. But please, keep yourself safe. You apparently only know this guy from the Internet at this point. Yes, people absolutely can (and do) meet their soulmate on the Web. But people also sometimes find that the soulmate via chat is either a dud or even dangerous in person.
As a 30-something, I expect you know how to make sure that such a meeting occurs in a way that doesn’t make you vulnerable. Why do I think you should meet? Because if you don’t, you will always wonder “what if.” Every time you and your boyfriend have a disagreement, he’ll be competing with your fantasy of the other man and you will probably start regretting why you didn’t pursue the other man.
So, the thought of the other man who could or could have been your soulmate will prevent you from committing yourself as deeply and truly as you should if you choose to stay with your boyfriend. Keep yourself safe my dear. Meet the other man then make your choice and follow your heart.

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